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voidtreckernet2020-04-29 08:41 pm
hashtagparkerluck) wrote in voidtreckernet2020-04-29 08:41 pm
Video | Day 29
[ Peter doesn't look nearly as energetic today and it's way earlier than he's usually seen as it's probably not much of a secret that he sleeps late. Really late. ]
Hey everyone-so I have a quick little PSA for you all and then I'm gonna go back to trying ta sleep I guess. Maybe it'll work out better. Um... anyways uh... I tried not to let it get to me buuuuut it did. So yeah-
Don't ever, ever say that what someone went through doesn't matter. It just makes you look like a jerk. It doesn't matter if you know what they've gone through or not-don't say it.
It does matter to them and you have no idea why or how much it mattered. So yeah, just don't say it.
that's all I have. I'm going to bed. 'Night.
Hey everyone-so I have a quick little PSA for you all and then I'm gonna go back to trying ta sleep I guess. Maybe it'll work out better. Um... anyways uh... I tried not to let it get to me buuuuut it did. So yeah-
Don't ever, ever say that what someone went through doesn't matter. It just makes you look like a jerk. It doesn't matter if you know what they've gone through or not-don't say it.
It does matter to them and you have no idea why or how much it mattered. So yeah, just don't say it.
that's all I have. I'm going to bed. 'Night.
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You left out the context. The situation was that one person was defending another's behavior by invoking what they'd been through. Saying those events don't matter, in this case, means that it isn't an excuse for the behavior. Nothing more.
Let me give you an example. A man stabs a woman. Bad behavior, right? Does it matter that the woman reminds him of an old lover who betrayed him? Does it matter that he was trained to kill from a young age? No. The woman's still stabbed. The act was still wrong. What the guy had been through doesn't matter.
A man betrays his best friend. But that man has secretly been jealous of his best friend and in love with that friend's wife. Does that make the betrayal okay? Does his pain and jealousy excuse it? It does not. The act is still wrong.
You see a man preparing to hurl a wall of flames into a town. Do you stop to ask his history? When he says, "You have no idea what I've been through," do you back off and let him do it?
Whatever pain people have, whatever they've endured, it doesn't change the nature of right and wrong. They still make their choices. They can succumb, or they can grow. So yes, those events matter to them on a personal level. But when it comes to what they do... no. They don't matter. What matters is the choices you make.
That man from the second example. I asked why we should let him back. What if he was weak enough to succumb to that influence again? What would we do when the evil we fought claims his heart again?
He didn't say it wouldn't happen. He didn't say we should understand his pain, or sympathize with him, or forgive him, or even try to restore his heart again. His answer was simply, "Kill me without a second thought."
He made his choice, to die before causing anyone any more harm. And that was when I could rest assured that he was on our side to stay, and trust him with my life in battle.
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When someone comes to you and says they want to die you figure out what went wrong-why they're so upset and you try and help them you don't just go 'oh, okay-stab.' That's horrifying
and that really doesn't equate at all. Like I get what you think you're trying to say-but that's not what you're saying. If I went out and-I don't know... kicked a puppy or something equally as bad-no what I went through would not excuse that behavior. But I would never do that because I don't wanna hurt anyone. Even if they hurt me-it's just not how I operate.
What happened is that I told you, based on historical facts, in my world monarchies just aren't a good idea and for some reason you thought that was the deepest insult I could possibly dish out. Rather than accept that my world has had bad experiences with monarchs you just go straight for the throat and try to tear me down with-what was it. I shirk responsibility because I'm scared of it? I have to have Gwen feed my sense of self importance?
And then Mr Stark came at you and said you had no idea what I had been through. But I'm not hear to throw a pity party and try and earn your sympathy. I'm just here to say it was shitty, and don't do it again.
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[The rest of it? He's just ignoring. The kid wants to slander him to the entire train, he's not going to just go without making his defense. The explanation isn't for him, it's for everyone else. Edge figures no one will listen, but if they choose to believe the kid straight out, then it's either because they willfully chose not to hear him, or they really do believe that people can do terrible things and have their histories excuse it. Either way, their scorn and disdain doesn't matter at all to Edge.]
[And everything else the kid is saying now? They'd heard the conversation if they chose to, they could interpret it as they will. Probably they'd choose to hear it as the kid is saying it now, which Edge considers quite different from what he'd actually said then... but again.]
Let me argue it this way. None of you know what I've been through, none of you care. Because it doesn't matter. As far as our disagreements have been concerned, it absolutely doesn't matter. That's just a blade that cuts both ways, you see?
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I never said what you went through didn't matter because I wouldn't do that. And like-for real. Stop making this about you.
the whole point of of this is that I can't sleep now because I feel like shit and I don't want anyone else to feel like shit so I'm making this announcement telling people not to do the shitty thing that makes other people feel like shit.
Oh my god I'm tired. Holy shit.
[ He rubs at his eyes. ]
So just. Stop.
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[He's starting to think he's given the boy too little credit for manipulation. To say in one breath that he doesn't want to hurt anyone while overtly encouraging others to hurt Edge himself? That's impressive. And it sickens Edge.]
You played this well, I'll give you that much.
[And that's the end of it from Edge. He has to go prepare for another round of attacks, after all.]
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[ He is too tired for this. But now he's gonna be up trying to figure out what the hell Edge is even talking about. ]
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Now, you want some hot cocoa or somethni'?
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I haven't slept in almost twenty-four hours. Nothing make sense.
[ SIGH. ]
Hot cocoa sounds amazing
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[ And sure enough, he comes with two hot chocolates for the spider kids. But then he leaves them alone, because sometimes, he's not such a dick. ]
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If you go around expecting to see offense in everything someone says or does, you're always going to have reason to be offended. Much like if you expect everything to end in a fight, you'll end up in a fight. But you brought it on yourself. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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