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[lansizhui]

Have you ever thought about getting married? {The topic has been on his mind since a certain wedding.} I know you should be in love when you do it, but is it strange to think about it even if you're not?

I'm a Cultivator, so I realize that it isn't likely that I will ever be married - unless I settle down. But it does seem nice and everyone has someone, don't you think?

{Or has he been lost in his daydreams for too long?}

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[mtsilver_conquor]

I don't think it is. Marriage for love is nice, but in the end, it's a joining of families.

[She shrugs a little.] Arranged marriages are still very much a thing across all of Arkea. Mostly the social elite and families with at least a couple of centuries of history. There's also different versions, too and it depends on the families involved as what one's used.

[A beat, then:] What's a Cultivator?

[lansizhui]

Or the making of a family. {He gives a small frown at the idea of an arranged marriage. That seems...so wrong...to him.} I don't think I would be comfortable doing something like that. I guess if my family needed me to -

{Still openly unsure.}

Someone who can use their golden core to quiet or defeat ill spirits, demons or other monsters.

[marriedanidiot]

Marriage for reasons other than love? That... seems supremely odd, to me.

[lansizhui]

Doesn't it? People make so many sacrifices.

[maxwellsdaemon]

Marriage? I never thought I'd live long enough to reach drinkin age! I've never thought about marriage.

Guess it's okay for some. Nice for some, but I don't think it's somethin I'd be allowed.

[lansizhui]

You must live a dangerous life. {Like he is one to talk.}

Allowed...? Who would prevent you?

[so_dark_a_road]

Not everyone has someone, sad to say.

I was married, long ago when I was young and heedless. I was entranced by Sulriel, but the real reason I married her was because my people were at war with a powerful enemy whom we had little chance of defeating. My father had already fallen in one of the great battles, and I was beginning to fear that soon our family would need replacements. It didn't seem likely that any of my brothers were going to produce families of their own, so I arranged to be wed. I am not sorry, for we had a son whom anyone would be proud of, and he was the light of my life. But the marriage did not last.

Later in another world, I fell in love with a man named Yukari and might have married him, had it not been for circumstances that would take too long to explain.

I don't think it is strange to want the closeness and the stability, even if you're not in love. The chances of life can lead you into a marriage for many reasons.

[ That's Curufin's two cents' worth! It's a rare moment when he will talk about this in public, and he doesn't in fact reveal the whole story. ]

[lansizhui]

You say you were entranced with her, but did you love her? It sounds more like a marriage of convenience to me. {He can be blunt and he is skilled at listening to what people say - and, sometimes, don't say.}

Children shouldn't be replacements for soldiers. They should be able to choose whether they fight for a cause or not.

{Sizhui sighs sadly. He is sensitive to sons being separated from their fathers (or parents in general).}

I feel like there should only be one reason for marriage. Love.

[dredefulchilde]

The modern insistence on marrying for love is strange to me, given that the vast majority of unions in the whole of human history have been primarily economic and political affairs.

[lansizhui]

Really? That's...sort of depressing. I know people can be resilient, but marriage feels like it should be special.

[blue_ice]

Not everyone. Sometimes you're in a position where it'd be effectively impossible to find someone you can trust.

But what's a Cultivator? Why does that mean you can't?

[lansizhui]

It must be very lonely to be in a position like that. {He tries to trust everyone until they prove otherwise.}

I will face many ill spirits, demons and monsters. A Cultivator puts them to rest or banishes them. That means I will be in great danger frequently. Asking someone to accompany me or wait for me seems like too much.

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[hashtagparkerluck]

No? Not really.

I mean... maybe once? I don't know, the way my life plays out I'll be lucky if I even make it eighteen. So. [ Kanye Shrug. ]

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[lansizhui]

Are you happy being in so much danger? Is there a way to change it?

[hateskid]

N-No! Of course not! Why would you think that!?

[ She has. ]

[lansizhui]

Why shouldn't I think about it? It must be a nice feeling to be loved.

[pleple]

I think I've got a long time to worry about that.

...I hope I do.

[ Arranged marriages are bad. ]

[lansizhui]

Well that's good? I wouldn't want you dying any time soon! {He encourages long, happy lives!}

[achickenformylove]

[Since figuring out this thing that let them watch comments made by others, WangJi had decided he wasn't going to intrude on Sizhui's social life here. He was a growing teenager and they deserved space. But this question, he feels he does need to speak up]

You are still young. Love and marriage are not concepts inherently understood even among those who find their fated one in the end. With time, it will likely come.

[lansizhui]

{He is red cheeked and looking embarrassed, but this is his father and he loves him dearly. Lan Wangji can be involved in all of his life; Sizhui would never push him out.}

How did you know Mother was your fated one?

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[adropofsunlight]

Have I ever? Oh, no. I never thought about something like that... I only just got out of the tower.

[Love had only crossed her mind when helping a friend with his own love issues.]

But I do agree love seems to be this wonderful thing and it would be nice to have that special someone who will love and support whatever you do.

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[lansizhui]

Tower? Why were you in a tower?

{He is worried, Rapunzel. A young lady shouldn't be trapped in a tower!}

It would be really nice. I think I would like to experience it one day. I'm not sure I'm ready.

[mayp]

I've been married once before. My husband ws killed in a home invasion. I... I do not know if I would get married again.

Not here

[hashtagparkerluck]

[ Peter holds his breath as his Aunt mentions having been married and no small amount of guilt settles on his shoulders. Maybe next platform Ben will be there. Maybe. ]

[lansizhui]

I'm so sorry. {His heart breaks for her. How awful!} I think that is understandable. But I do hope you find love.