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[jinlingers]

[ Jin Ling puts this off for a while, because, he doesn't really know what he wants to say or if he wants to say anything. The last time he tried to get advice from the train it ended up not particularly a grand idea. ]

So I won't ask about how to erase memories again because I don't need more lectures and offers of brain surgery.

But, people say you just move on and get over stuff.

What if you just can't seem to?

[ And you end up isolating yourself off and not knowing how to get out of it and maybe you don't want to get out of it...

But you kind of do. ]

Also, does anyone want to share some wine with me?

[ He is perfectly old enough for it. ]

Comments

[almukhtar]

( Here's a very tired man who offers a very useful answer to what is the most important question, clearly. ) Yes.

( And then a little after. ) People say you move on, but I think what truly happens is you simply find ways to move forward.

[jinlingers]

Great.

I don't think I even know what that means in practice.

[mynameisallen]

[Allen felt like this was something he could be an expert at.]

The people who say get over stuff are idiots. [Right to the point.]

You never really do that. You will always remember and all one can do is carry on. Does that make sense?

[jinlingers]

In a way it makes sense but not really. It feels like no matter what I do part of me is always stuck.

[mynameisallen]

It basically mean that what has happened will always be with you no matter what. There is no moving past them because they are apart of who you are now. You can remind yourself and do things like not repeating a mistake, but you can't truly move past it.

[jinlingers]

There's... really no way I can stop it from happening again except not to ... I just wouldn't be able to keep it from happening.

[ And that's maybe one of the worst parts. ]

[mynameisallen]

I admit, I'm not exactly sure what it is you are talking about. All I can say is based on my own experiences. I went through a lot, but I choose to keep going regardless of what I go through.

There are some things I probably can't stop to, but I carry on regardless. It's just all you can do for the most part. Not at all helpful, I'm sure.

[securityconsultant]

...you move on anyway.

[jinlingers]

Easy to say. Impractical instruction.

[securityconsultant]

I'm serious.

[jinlingers]

That doesn't make it any more practical.

[flurryofbeaus]

I have it on good authority that wine's a pretty key component. Or harder shit.

[Beau, no.]

[jinlingers]

Harder shit?

[ He’ll try anything at this point. ]

[flurryofbeaus]

You know, whisky. Rum. That kind of thing. There are other options, but I haven't really explored what's available here.

[A brief pause.]

Thing about getting over something is, it's a process. You figure out who you want to be, and you work towards it. Eventually, the shit in your past stops mattering as much, because that's not who you are anymore. Anything else, and you're just numbing it out for a while.

[jinlingers]

I have not had those before.

Mm, maybe. but right now I think I'm tired and I want it to be numb for a while.

[firewalled]

...It means you're going through trauma, and it takes time to move on.

Honestly, I don't think you ever get over it completely. You just learn tactics so you can cope with it a little better, so it doesn't overwhelm you.

[He tries for a soft laugh, but it sounds bitter.]

Sorry, but I don't have any booze. I can give you weird-tasting soda, and that's about it.

[jinlingers]

You sound like you have experience with it or something.

... What kind of weird?

[firewalled]

Yeah, sort of. It's not really important. Just was trying to say you're not the only one figuring it out as you go.

[He isn't going to dump on this guy he's just met, especially when it sounds like he's overwhelmed enough.]

It's this stuff called Mountain Dew? I asked for a certain flavour and got a bunch of other weird flavours, like Supernova and Black-out.

[jinlingers]

I've never heard of such a drink. It sounds strange.

[firewalled]

Yeah, it's definitely weird. It's good, if you like sugary stuff!

[jinlingers]

I'm not really sure.

[firewalled]

Well, I mean, I have plenty if you want to figure out whether or not you like it.

[jinlingers]

Sure. That'd be cool, I guess.

[so_dark_a_road]

[ Curufin is scrubbing the kitchen sink and counters with a big sponge and a can of scrubbing compound. He's wearing the t-shirt that Glorfindel gave him after they spent a lot of time joking and clowning around with a story Curufin made up, the Kitchen Saga, about the interaction between the Sponge of Doom, the Soapdish of Righteousness, and Scrubby the Copper. War and peace. The shirt is black and on its front it has a cartoon of a fierce-looking sponge with a determined facial expression. The caption below, of course, is KITCHEN SPONGE OF DOOM! ]

Brain surgery! Hell no! [ Snerk. ]

When you can't get over the events of the past, it's never as simple as just moving on. At least, I have never found it to be so simple. My suggestion is to start by accepting that those events happened and accepting your emotions.

And yes, I'd be pleased to share some wine with you!

[jinlingers]

I know what happened. And my emotions about it are the problem.

Good. Whenever you would like.

[so_dark_a_road]

I can understand that.

As for the wine, how about right now? We could go to the Garden Carriage and sit on the benches and drink the stuff. I go there often to play my harp or my flute or I go to meditate. And sometimes to drink wine. I could detour to the Dining Carriage to get some cups or glasses. Or we could just go there instead of the Garden Carriage. Garden Carriage, Dining Carriage -- whichever you prefer.

[jinlingers]

The garden carriage is fine.

[ Jin Ling likes it there. ]

Want to play out the scene of them drinking together, or handwave? Either's fine with me.

[so_dark_a_road]

I'll meet you there in a few minutes, then!

[ Nice, they share a liking for a certain kind of environment. ]

Definitely.

[jinlingers]

over here~

[salutosinedelectat]

Most things, when they do actually hold some importance to you, are most definitely difficult to simply 'move on and get over'. It would be lovely if it were so, and most people would agree, I would think.

But the sheer act of 'getting over' something does hide in it the fact that you need to get through it in the first place. That you must face what bothers you, in some way.

[jinlingers]

How do you face something like that? All I want is to fix it or forget it and neither one of those are really options.

[salutosinedelectat]

Well, forgetting is rarely an option, so often the only way out is through. By allowing yourself to feel how you do about it.