...Why did you say the 'answer me now' part? I would have anyway. Saying that just makes me not want to.
[No, he's seriously confused.]
It was this: if we were to each take the floor of a burning house to rescue the people inside, he'd feel absolutely obligated to check and make sure I'd done the job right.
That may not seem like much to you, but think about it. First, it shows a lack of trust. If you can't trust the people you're working with, you're not going to make good decisions. In a crisis, that can get people hurt or killed.
Second, it means he's less likely to do his own job thoroughly, because he's also thinking about doing mine as well. He's trying to take care of not only the people he's saving, but the people doing the saving. I know that seems like he has a good heart, but that's a terrible attitude to have in the middle of a big situation. It's back to trust. If you're taking on everything like that, you're not giving anything the full attention it deserves.
Third, it's that 'I am responsible for everything, you are not' attitude. Again, that leads to poor decision-making. You spend all of your time trying to plan ways to keep people from messing up the job, instead of relying on them to do it. In the end, you mess up everyone's job and none of it gets done well.
Is this clear? It really is the difference between being in a situation together, and being in a situation alone even when other people are there to help. In a battle or a disaster... that can, and will, get people killed.
The people of Eblan survived because they trusted each other. Each did their job and relied on their fellow to do his. The evil that threatened the five of us on the Moon fell because we trusted and supported each other -- not because Cecil second-guessed our every choice in the battle and felt constantly obligated to make sure Rosa was casting the right spell or Kain was minding his jumps.
So I say again. That attitude of his is dangerous. Lethally dangerous, in a time of need. Here, now, on this train in particular -- he is not alone. He is not the only one capable, not the only one responsible. No more than any other of us. And the one he's in most danger of hurting is himself.
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[No, he's seriously confused.]
It was this: if we were to each take the floor of a burning house to rescue the people inside, he'd feel absolutely obligated to check and make sure I'd done the job right.
That may not seem like much to you, but think about it. First, it shows a lack of trust. If you can't trust the people you're working with, you're not going to make good decisions. In a crisis, that can get people hurt or killed.
Second, it means he's less likely to do his own job thoroughly, because he's also thinking about doing mine as well. He's trying to take care of not only the people he's saving, but the people doing the saving. I know that seems like he has a good heart, but that's a terrible attitude to have in the middle of a big situation. It's back to trust. If you're taking on everything like that, you're not giving anything the full attention it deserves.
Third, it's that 'I am responsible for everything, you are not' attitude. Again, that leads to poor decision-making. You spend all of your time trying to plan ways to keep people from messing up the job, instead of relying on them to do it. In the end, you mess up everyone's job and none of it gets done well.
Is this clear? It really is the difference between being in a situation together, and being in a situation alone even when other people are there to help. In a battle or a disaster... that can, and will, get people killed.
The people of Eblan survived because they trusted each other. Each did their job and relied on their fellow to do his. The evil that threatened the five of us on the Moon fell because we trusted and supported each other -- not because Cecil second-guessed our every choice in the battle and felt constantly obligated to make sure Rosa was casting the right spell or Kain was minding his jumps.
So I say again. That attitude of his is dangerous. Lethally dangerous, in a time of need. Here, now, on this train in particular -- he is not alone. He is not the only one capable, not the only one responsible. No more than any other of us. And the one he's in most danger of hurting is himself.
I'm not okay with that. Are you?